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Breaking Up

At the outset am making this clear to everyone who have dared to spend their precious time reading this useless article written by a guy who did not know what to do during a vetti sunday evening. This post is totally my opinion and if it indeed hurts anyone I am not sorry for you. And for all those who despite the above warning, have reached this line, you must have had friends who had girlfriends and vice versa who might have broken up. You might have had friends who after breaking up go in to depression. But my question is why do people go in to depression coz of this? Is it the end of the world if you break up? I mean, agar ye ladki nahi hai tho kya koi aur ladki nahi milegi? For example if I were lucky enough to fall in love with a girl, I would cherish every moment I spend with her. If it ends with us breaking up, I would be pained. But that does not mean I would be obsessed with her. I would get on with my life and continue thinking that the girl is just not worth my time, effort or love. And to me all these three are very precious. There have been instances when a couple that I know break up, but either the guy or the girl gets in to depression. I at times wonder when I talk to such people, “Arrey Yaar, you have been blessed enough to fall in love and experience the entire thing. Imagine someone like me who is/was/will always search for that one woman who just makes me go….”. Do not think am an insensitive ass. I have had my share of rejections too. But one cannot keep sitting and wondering why that’s the case. One cannot be obsessed too. And above all when god forbid people do break up, I believe one should just cherish the time spent together, cherish the fact that you were lucky enough to fall in love, and get on with it. There are infinite other things to be done during this short period called life.


12 responses

  1. I agree, but only partly.

    Going into depression for way too long, crying over it again and again without moving on is not something I am for…If it were me, I would be hurt, I would be sad, but I would try to do everything to move on and get over it because I know it won’t help much just sitting and crying for something that’s done.

    BUT…it hurts. It’s not easy to just say “the girl /boy is just not worth my time, effort or love” and leave it at that because we invest so much time when we are together. So leaving behind all those wonderful memories will take time. The sooner one realizes that it’s over for good, the better because then it’s easy to move forward. The problem is most of the times that people don’t want to let go, people don’t want to move on because they are afraid of change, of being alone or of getting together with someone who they don’t know too well.

    Anyway, don’t know if I even made sense. All I want to say is that it takes time…it’s not easy to let go of right away. But at the same time, one shouldn’t waste too much time worrying about something that isn’t.

    March 22, 2010 at 8:40 am

    • viswajithkn

      “So leaving behind all those wonderful memories will take time”…you do not leave those memories…you carry them forward but you cherish them. cherish the fact that you were blessed enuf to enjoy such time and get on with u r life!

      March 22, 2010 at 8:45 am

      • blah…what was I thinking…I didn’t mean memories, but I meant the good old days spent together. It’s not easy to leave behind the days. Memories are there to stay, of course :D…sorry about the confusion!

        March 22, 2010 at 8:52 am

      • All I’m trying to say is that it’s not as easy as saying “ok this is done, let me move on”, but again, it’s not as hard as one thinks life would be after the break up either. Life moves on, so one should move on with it. The sooner, the better.

        Ok I shall stop now. *mouth shut*

        March 22, 2010 at 8:54 am

  2. RA

    Aaha, looks like u r a sincere blogger, nice..

    March 22, 2010 at 4:20 pm

    • viswajithkn


      March 22, 2010 at 4:21 pm

      • RA

        that was a general comment on ur enduring blogging skills, least relevant to any specific post in ur blog.. sry for the confusion.. 😛

        March 22, 2010 at 6:52 pm

  3. RA

    hmm, looks like I posted the most irrelevant in a blog ever..
    so i thought hard and this is the closest i could get to a comment to your post:
    1) awesome disclaimer.. i see u play it safer than the FBI warning on pirated movies.
    2) folks need to calm down and take movies for what they are worth it sure plays with human character.
    3) each person is a pressure cooker where the valve takes a slightly different stress level to break. Thats probably because brains are wired different and it works better that way in nature..

    It doesnt cost a lot to offer support to someone who is hurting though.. but remember never let a crisis go to waste, get up and get going..

    March 22, 2010 at 6:51 pm

    • viswajithkn

      abt the disclaimer: past experience man…
      I do not understand u r second point…but agree with u r third point!

      March 23, 2010 at 5:59 pm

  4. hm, i am getting so interested on your writing. it’s so intriguing ! 🙂

    feel depressed when one lost something’s precious in life is still so normal as long as it wont lead one to a certain mental-disorder.

    i guess no one needs to practice how to cherish all the good things in life, for this..there will be no problem at all. But somehow there will be no one who wishes for bad things in life, so yes we might need to practice a bit or even a lot on how to solve, handle and deal with all of those.

    well, each person needs each different times, spaces and process’ to wash away and get over the pain sometimes.

    love this post. 😉

    April 21, 2010 at 8:19 pm

    • viswajithkn

      well…thanks again..:)

      April 21, 2010 at 8:30 pm

      • ur most welcome 🙂

        April 21, 2010 at 10:27 pm

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